One person is not lucky and another unlucky in life, luck is simply preparation and opportunity. If you are someone who continually says you are unlucky in life, maybe it is simply because you have not prepared for an opportunity – the good or the bad.
Nothing about what one person has and another does not have in life has anything to do with luck.
Hear me out on this one –
Many people would think that because Ian and I were able to sign on a new construction project 30 days after moving to a new state, with a new job, suddenly having just one income and having never owned a home before, we would be considered lucky.
However, what people do not realize or know is, we were able to do all of that because 395 days prior to signing on a brand new 30-year mortgage, my grandmother had passed away. Being the wonderful human that she was, she gave all of her grandchildren a small monetary gift prior to her death. Knowing that, would you still say we are lucky? I wouldn’t. I would give every single penny and my very first home back if it meant I could have had my grandmother by my side and for her to see all that we have accomplished in the last 8 years and all that is yet to come.
So, what does this all have to do with being Married to SEO? A lot. Ian and I have always prepared for the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful when it comes to this life of ours, if we hadn’t, we wouldn’t be in the position we are in right now, but it wasn’t always sunshine and sprinkles. We have had some really awful moments in life. Those awful moments never once made us think we were unlucky, they made us realize that preparation in life is key. They made us realize that being at our happiest is what is the most important thing to us. Those downright horrible days made us realize that we need to make a life we are proud of and happy with, and we will not sacrifice anything to get to the life we know we have earned and deserve.
The path we have taken in life may not be for everyone. We certainly don’t have a traditional life. We are in our mid-thirties, happily married, travel when we want, spend what we want, and are kidless. This isn’t the life for everyone, but it is the life that we have sought out after so many bad things that occurred in the early years of our marriage.
My grandmother was my everything. Who else had a grandma who would be on AOL Instant Messenger at all hours, so that when I came back from the bar in college after meeting my husband she was literally the FIRST person I told; yup Ian and I met in a bar, very romantic.
When I lost her on November 5, 2011, I felt like I lost part of who I was. It has taken me 8, very painful years, to realize that I can go on and have a spectacular life with my husband, even though she is not here to hear every story. I never once thought I was unlucky. I knew I was the luckiest girl in the world because I had her in my life for 27 years.
No one person is lucky and another unlucky, we all create our own lives and it is all dependent on PREPARATION and OPPORTUNITY.
If you think you are one of the unlucky ones, go out, look for opportunity, and prepare for anything life throws at you, that is how you are “lucky” in this game of life. And that is why you may sometimes hear us say our house is the house that Mary Jane built, Mary Jane Walling that is, because of her generosity and untimely passing.
One person has a lot in life because they work hard, not because of luck. One person goes to bed each night grateful for all they have accomplished because they worked hard, not because of luck. I get to enjoy my home because of a selfless individual who I cared about deeply and miss immensely, not because of luck, but because of love.